Author: Talisha Brown

When did misalignment with goals lead us to doubt our full potential? You see a challenge and think you are so far from it that there is no way for your true potential to shine. There are many reasons why your nervous system is upset with you but the most significant one would be unlimited misuse of focus time.

External validation.

This was learned from the moment we take our first step and there’s an adult screaming, “Good job!!”.

The step is for you to sustain yourself yet the action connects you to progress falsely attributed to that parental figure. Their perversion of a role intended for them to maintain development for another human being is warped into extreme satisfaction with your well being sets the tone for false ideologies around pleasure and joy going forward.

Then paired with abusive punishment tactics such as physical beatings or deprivation of treats, you are set up for a chaotic dynamic with this thing called life.

Your anxiety is relative to the amount of familiarity your current state has with your developmental years.

This is why millionaires go homeless after a childhood of disruption. The calm and certainty feels strange and there is a persistent need for “balance”.

So what can you do to stop the cycle?

Define the root. Sit with the learned poor habits and identify where you began denying your truth. If you want actionable steps to accomplish this, click here.

Privilege

While your ancestors were in search of whether or not they should invest in the next stock or start their own diner, my ancestors were fighting to get hired at the local fast food place. While your ancestors spent their days planning, saving and striving to succeed in every facet of live, mine spent their days praying, fasting, and hiding in fear of more severe creative antics at amplifying oppression by authorities and even mere strangers of an opposing race. While your ancestors bought homes, mine were placed in fixed income housing and mounted in setbacks such as unlikelihood of getting history books or even clean schools. While your ancestors were getting hired at fortune 500 companies, mine were scraping up pennies to make ends meet and resorting to entrepreneurial efforts such as drug exchange and prostitution. While your ancestors were elected as governmental officials, mine were undermined and forced to feel inferior through mass incarceration without probable cause and brutal beatings leading to unexplained deaths. While your ancestors were given the opportunity to collaborate and incorporate group efforts at success, my ancestors were forced to compete with each other for jobs as there can only be one minority in an office. While your ancestors went to the salon for a quick wash and blow-out, mine struggled in the home-made salon kitchen with hot combs, flat-irons, and extensions. My ancestors fried and died and steamed and pressed until their fingers were numb in order to meet a standard, uphold an acceptable appearance in society when their God-given tresses will do. My ancestors had to separate the male fathers from the family because they were not allowed to marry, leaving the strong male as a hot commodity to be traded. Without even mentioning the race, can you enlighten me on the two contrasting ancestorial narratives I am portraying?

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

• Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
• Because it will help you focus your own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

• Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
• What topics do you think you’ll write about?
• Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
• If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

• Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
• Because it will help you focus your own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

• Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
• What topics do you think you’ll write about?
• Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
• If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

• Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
• Because it will help you focus your own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

• Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
• What topics do you think you’ll write about?
• Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
• If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.